Hello, hello..!!!!!!
Today I want to talk to you about a topic that deeply touches many of us: How some
women tend to get lost in the daily hustle and bustle, sacrificing their well-being and
desires to meet the expectations of others.
From a young age, many of us are taught to prioritize caring for others over our own
needs. This expectation, deeply ingrained in our culture, leads us to measure our worth
by how we meet the needs of those around us, which can cause us to neglect our own
aspirations and health.
This phenomenon is rooted in several sociocultural, psychological and structural factors.
Historically assigned to the role of caregiver, both in the home and in professional fields,
women often face the challenge of balancing this nurturing but overwhelming role over
time for self-care and personal development. Adding to this, guilt and the self-demand
to meet standards of perfection in all roles can lead to burnout.
In everyday life, it is easy to get lost in the multitude of roles and responsibilities that
dominate our time and energy. From mother, wife, worker, to friend and caregiver,
women frequently take on multiple roles, often at the cost of forgetting their own identity
and needs.
In this blog, I want to give you understanding and empathy, why many women end up
taking a back seat in their own lives and what you can do to reclaim the leading role you
deserve.
Being the protagonist of your life means taking the reins of your destiny,
pursuing your dreams and living authentically. However, many women, especially
those with families, shy away from this leading role.
Why do you stop being the protagonist of your own life?
Family responsibilities: Taking care of children, partner and home can absorb much of
your time and energy, relegating your own interests to the background.
Lack of self-confidence: Doubts about your abilities or comparison with other women
may make you feel that you are not capable of achieving your goals.
Fear of change: Stepping out of your comfort zone and making decisions that benefit
yourself can generate uncertainty and fear.
Social pressure: Traditional gender roles may dictate that your priority should be your
family, relegating your personal development to second place.
Being the protagonist of your life does not mean being selfish or abandoning
your family. It's about finding a balance between your responsibilities and your own
well-being. However, many women do experience guilt when dedicating time to self-
care.
How can you overcome guilt and become the protagonist of your life?
1.Redefine the meaning of “selfishness”: Taking care of yourself is not a luxury, it is a
necessity. When you are full of energy and well-being, you can offer the best of yourself
to others.
2. Share your needs with your family: Talk to your partner and children about your
desire to devote time to your personal development. Seek their support and
understanding.
3. Set clear limits: Learn to say “no” to demands that overload you and prioritize your
time and energy. Remember that you are not responsible for the happiness of others.
4. Start with small steps: Don't try to change your life overnight. Start with small
actions that you can sustain over time.
5. Celebrate your achievements: Every step you take towards your well-being is a
reason to celebrate. Recognize your effort and be proud of your progress.
6. Surround yourself with positive people: Seek the support of people who motivate
and inspire you to achieve your goals. Stay away from those who judge you or make
you feel guilty.
7. Remember that you are important: Your happiness and well-being are just as
important as those of others. Don't feel guilty about spending time on self-care.
Here are some tips for overcoming guilt:
- Ask yourself: If I don't take care of myself, who will?
- Visualize: Imagine how you will feel when you achieve your goals.
- Repeat positive affirmations: “I deserve to be happy”, “I am capable of achieving my
dreams”.
- Practice self-compassion: Be understanding of yourself and accept your mistakes as
part of the process. Don't be too harsh with your criticism of yourself.
- Recognize your sabotaging thoughts: They are those that when you have already
thought or decided to do something, thoughts that are not conscious and sometimes
uncontrollable come out of nowhere to give you endless reasons why you are not going
to achieve it. Do not let them stop you from achieving your dreams or goals.
Regaining the leading role in your life is not an easy task, but it is possible. With
effort, patience and the right support, you can overcome guilt and become the woman
you want to be.
Remember: You are the author of your own story. Take charge of your life and live with
passion and purpose.
I invite you to read my book: ¡Sé tú la protagonista de tu propia vida! (Be the
Protagonist of Your Own Life) which will guide you in taking charge of your life.
This blog is just a starting point. I invite you to share your experience and advice in
the comments. Together we can inspire and support each other to be happy and
complete women, living guilt-free.
And always remember: Decide for your health and for you.
Bye, Bye
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